90/10是個(gè)超乎想象的巧妙法則！
The 90-10 principle is incredible. 很少人知道并且應(yīng)用這項(xiàng)秘訣，結(jié)果造成幾百萬人白白受到壓力、考驗(yàn)、問題、心痛等困難折磨，并且他們的生命似乎成了最大的失敗，厄運(yùn)連連，壞事好像一直不斷的壓力、消極，和破碎的人際關(guān)系隨處可見，因?yàn)閾?dān)憂消耗了他們的時(shí)間，憤怒破壞了友誼，人生似乎愈趨頹喪而無法享受滿足與豐盛的生命……。
以上的描述像是在描述你嗎？以上的描述像是在描述你嗎？
Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.
如果是，別難過，你的生命可以不一樣！ 只要你了解并且應(yīng)用這個(gè)90/10法則呢？
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?
它其實(shí)是在說：人生只有10%會被發(fā)生在你身上的事情影響，然而卻有90%是被你面對事情時(shí)的反應(yīng)決定。
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
這代表什么呢？ 我們真的無法控制那百分之十發(fā)生在我們身上的事情，就像我們無法阻止車子拋錨，飛機(jī)誤點(diǎn)……。
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
但另外百分之九十不同了。 你可以決定這百分之九十！ 如何做呢？ 善用你的反應(yīng)。你或許無法控制紅燈，但你可以控制你對紅燈的反應(yīng)。
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?
別讓其他人影響你，你可以控制自己的反應(yīng)！
By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
我們舉個(gè)例子。
Let's use an example.
你正與你的家人在吃餐，你的女兒不小心打翻一杯咖啡倒在你的襯衫上，你完全無法控制這件事情的發(fā)生，但接下來會發(fā)生什么事情，就由你的反應(yīng)決定了。
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
你開始罵人，你為了這杯打翻的啡嚴(yán)厲的責(zé)罵女兒，她難過得哭了。 在罵完她后，你轉(zhuǎn)過身開始罵你的妻子，你責(zé)怪她把咖啡杯放得離桌子邊緣太近了，緊接著是一段針鋒相對的火爆場面，你憤怒的離開去換你的襯衫。
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
當(dāng)你回來的時(shí)候，你發(fā)現(xiàn)女兒因?yàn)榭薜锰y過而來不及吃完早餐，她錯(cuò)過了公車，你的妻子必須馬上去工作，你往車子沖去并且開車載女兒去學(xué)校。 因?yàn)槟憧煲t到了，只好超速駕駛。
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
在遲到了十五分鐘并被開了一張罰單后，你終于到了女兒的學(xué)校，她一下車就跑向教室，連「再見」都沒跟你說。 遲到二十分鐘后，你到了辦公室，然后發(fā)現(xiàn)自己竟然忘了帶公事包。
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
你的今天才剛開始糟透了，并且似乎愈來愈糟，你開始期待回家時(shí)間。 當(dāng)你回到家的時(shí)候，卻發(fā)現(xiàn)自己與女兒和妻子的關(guān)系有了裂痕。
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
為什么你會有這么糟糕的一天呢？
A:是那杯咖啡造成的嗎？
B:是你的女兒造成的嗎？
C:是警察造成的嗎？
D:是你造成的嗎？
答案是Ｄ。
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?A)Didthecoffeecauseit?
B) Did your daughter cause it?B)Didyourdaughtercauseit?
C) Did the policeman cause it?C)Didthepolicemancauseit?
D) Did you cause it?D)Didyoucauseit?
The answer is " D".Theansweris"D".
你無法控制那杯咖啡倒在你的身上，但你對這件事情如何反應(yīng)影響了接下來發(fā)生的事情。
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
另一種可能的情況是這樣的：咖啡倒在你的身上，你的女兒見狀快要哭了，你溫柔的說：「親愛的，沒關(guān)系，下次小心一點(diǎn)就好�！鼓弥砩蠘强焖贀Q好衣服，并拿著公事包準(zhǔn)時(shí)下樓，看見你的孩子搭上了公車，她轉(zhuǎn)過身向你揮手說再見。 你提早五分鐘到公司，并且笑臉迎人的與人打招呼……。
Here is what could have and should have happened.Hereiswhatcouldhaveandshouldhavehappened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
發(fā)現(xiàn)其中的差別了嗎？ 兩種完全不同的狀況，但卻有相同的開始。 為什么呢？ 這其中的差別就在于你如何反應(yīng)。 你真的無法控制發(fā)生在你身上的事情，但你可以控制自己的反應(yīng)。
Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
這邊有幾個(gè)方法來應(yīng)用90/10法則
Herearesomewaystoapplythe90/10principle.
如果有人給你負(fù)面的評語，別像海綿一樣馬上就吸收，而要讓這些攻擊如同鏡面上滑過的水一樣，絲毫不受影響！ 恰當(dāng)?shù)姆磻?yīng)不會破壞你的一天，但錯(cuò)誤的反應(yīng)卻會使你失去朋友、被炒魷魚、壓力太大……。
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
現(xiàn)在你知道如何使用90/10法則了。 實(shí)踐它，你將驚訝于它所帶來的神奇結(jié)果。
You can be different!Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!
『人有見識就不輕易發(fā)怒；寬恕人的過失便是自己的榮耀。 』
編者按：在傳播NLP的這幾年中，經(jīng)常被問到為什么要學(xué)習(xí)NLP，一直覺得這個(gè)問題不好回答，看了這篇文章后，我知道如何回答了：學(xué)習(xí)NLP，你就可以決定這關(guān)鍵的百分之九十！
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